My name is Tracy, and in February 2022, my world changed forever when I was diagnosed with glioblastoma with primitive neuronal component (GBM-PNC). This rare and aggressive form of brain cancer came with daunting statistics and a challenging prognosis. But through this journey, my husband Jason and I have discovered the profound strength of faith, resilience, and community support.
The day I received my diagnosis was one of the most terrifying days of my life. Hearing the words "4 cm brain tumor" felt like a death sentence. This rare and aggressive tumor, known for its poor prognosis, left us reeling. However, Jason and I were determined to face this challenge head-on.
The initial surgery went well, but within two weeks, the tumor had recurred, necessitating another surgery and immediate radiation therapy. GBM-PNC is notorious for its aggressive nature, and the treatment was grueling. Jason was my constant support, never leaving my side, even when things got tough. His unwavering presence gave me the strength to endure the painful treatments and maintain hope.
The survival statistics for glioblastoma are grim, with most patients not living beyond 15 months post-diagnosis. Initially, I was consumed by these numbers, feeling like my life had been reduced to a set of bleak probabilities. But Jason helped me shift my focus. He reminded me that I was not a statistic, but a person with dreams, purpose, and a family.
Cancer doesn't just affect the patient; it impacts the entire family, especially marriages. Studies show that the stress of dealing with a life-threatening illness can strain even the strongest relationships. For women, the risk of divorce or separation is significantly higher when they are the affected partner. This statistic was daunting, but it motivated us to do something about it.
We faced moments of tension and exhaustion. There were days when the treatments left me
exhausted and frustrated, and Jason felt helpless watching me suffer. But through it all, we communicated openly and honestly. We sought support from friends and family, ensuring that our family would not collapse during this time of chaos. Being vulnerable and humble to help allowed us to focus on healing.
To those in the cancer community who are married or in committed relationships, I want to share this: your partnership is a powerful tool in your battle against cancer. Lean on each other, communicate openly, and seek support. Remember that it is okay to feel vulnerable and scared. These emotions are a natural part of the journey. Some days you will not want this to be part of your story. Some days it will be too much for you and your spouse. You need to have someone to vent, cry and lament that can be in prayer and shoulder your pain.
Jason and I found joy in small things—watching our favorite movies, taking short walks, and having a date day even if it included labs and doctor visits. These moments of “normalcy” helped us cope with the constant medical appointments and treatments.
If you find yourself struggling, remember that there are resources available to help. We’ve launched Aware Coaching. Aware Coaching offers personalized coaching for couples dealing with a cancer diagnosis. Our services focus on strengthening marriages through encouragement, teaching, and personal experience. For more information, visit myawarecoaching
As I continue my fight against glioblastoma, I have learned the value of resilience and faith. Jason and I remain advocates for more research and support for cancer patients. Our journey has not been easy, but it has brought us closer together and shown us the strength of our bond.
To the After Cancer community, I offer my story as a testament to the power of faith, resilience and hope. Stay strong, support each other, never give up, and engage an army of support. Together, we can face the challenges of cancer and emerge stronger on the other side.
Cancer is a formidable adversary, but it does not have to define your life or your relationships. By standing together, supporting each other, and believing in the possibility of a brighter future, we can find strength and hope even in the darkest times. My journey with Jason has taught me that together with faith we can overcome any obstacle.
To all the couples out there facing similar battles, know that you are not alone. Cherish each other, fight together, and hold on to hope. The road may be tough, but together, you can make it through. And remember, if you need support, we are here to help you navigate this journey.